So you could be a Hotwife...
He's Crazy. He doesn't love me. He just wants a reason to sleep with other women. He thinks I'm ugly. He thinks I'm fat. He thinks I'm bad in bed.
These are all very valid responses, and no one would think you are crazy for saying them when you are faced with the situation of your husband telling you he wants you to be a hotwife. Even he can see why you are saying these things, however assuredly so he has much better and much more relationship friendly reasons for what he's asking you. The vast majority of times he loves you deeply and wants to see you with the ultimate pleasure. You are good enough for him, and that's the first important thing to remember, It isn't because you aren't making him happy. On the contrary the majority of cases are the man thinking and most of the time knowing that what he has isn't necessarily enough to make or keep his wife happy. This is extremely important, all men really want is the truth, telling him he's the biggest and best around or that you've ever had when he probably is not, does nothing to help his ego. It will only create a bigger crash when the time comes. The truth, THE REAL TRUTH, is what matters. Please ladies, if he's not that big but its still fine, just tell him that. Men need to be humbled to stay in reality. Men need to hear that they aren't hitting all the spots that that other guy used to hit, and that the guy that just passed by you in the grocery store that gave you that hot stare, would most likely be great in bed, and that you would love to find out. As humans we often get so caught up in jealousy that we cant even see the humor in that statement if we wanted to, let alone just telling your true feelings. Having open and honest conversations, and very real discussions will change so much in any relationship. Men need truth, but not every man needs humiliation, some do, but most don't. Women can still tell men their true feelings about things without the humility, but here's another important thing, if he wants or asks for humiliation, give it to him, it just means its something he needs from you, but thus far was too afraid to ask for. If you keep an open mind and keep communication open, your relationship will flourish as much as it possibly can. Another word on humiliation...saying things to him about his penis size and how poorly he really is at certain sex acts, is not you calling him a failure, its not you hating him, and its not you laughing at his entire being. It's ok if he's telling you he wants it or needs it. It just means he's past the point of having it bother him because he's been telling himself these things for so long anyways, and he has a desire for it in his heart, and that he's having fun with it. trust that being as honest as possible will help everyone in the end.
So now you are empowered...
There are plenty of times when power struggles effect relationships. Most often due to societal norms, men tend to win over the power in relationships, especially in the bedroom. Sure it's not always the case but men are often times stronger than women and masculinity allows for more control. So women being able to exert power over a man sexually is something that is left desired for by both parties. Women don't always realize that they hold something that is much more powerful than masculinity, and that is femininity. It just works in different ways. Let's be honest, women have sex when they want, and men have sex when women let them have sex. We don't normally look at it this way but it is true. So inherently men are used to being sexual submissives, no one likes to admit it because egos would be damaged like crazy, but again, it's true. The mere fact that women allow men to think they have the upper hand is exactly why being a hotwife is just the truth coming out and being told openly. Women feeling empowered is often referred to as something that most women strive for, and make life changes to have, so just imagine if you just looked no further than your bedroom to have all the empowerment you want. If your man is secure in his masculinity, he will gladly give up the ego and the act that he's got all the power and allow you to take the control that you already have, and use it to make your relationship iron clad and rock solid. Show your man that the power you have can be used to his advantage too.
Ok Ladies, welcome to the truth zone. Bigger is better, not always but the vast majority of the time, no one is being fooled by the motion of the ocean argument anymore. There is nothing wrong with comparing apples to oranges in the bedroom, in fact guys need that to keep themselves from flying in the sky with their heads blown up like a damned hot air balloon. This isn't to say that some guys don't have the right to brag, but the guys that want to be in this lifestyle that are reading the mans view page on this site are most likely not the bragging type, at least not about their penis size. In fact they probably have a lot to brag about in other departments because a lot of the men that ask for their wives to be part of this have very high profile and high stress jobs where everyone comes to them for the answers and for advice. CEO's, Business owners, Officers, and Managers to name a few, take up the most space in the cuckold world. So ladies help them out with relieving the stress level by taking control and showing them that the world doesn't always revolve around them and their small to average penis. Trust us, you will both be happy you did.
